Navigating this blog

I have been writing on this blog since August of 2011. The program has evolved over the years, so I thought it might be helpful for readers to know how to find certain aspects of the program via the Archive links on the right hand side of the screen.

August 2011 – May 2103 the program focused on a social thinking curriculum for elementary age children, based on the work of Michelle Garcia Winner. There are lesson overviews, feedback from teachers and students, and even some videos of lessons.

August 2013 – May 2016 the focused shifted to an after school program for girls. The initial name of the program was Girls TALK, then Friends TALK. I will be forever grateful to the many girls at Briar Chapel, Glenwood Elementary, and Willow Oak Montessori for these 3 years.

The summer and fall of 2016, Samantha and I shifted the focus to a podcast format. A mom and daughter team talking about issues facing tween girls. There are 19 recorded episodes that you can listen to from the blog.

I am still working on the book – Let’s TALK: A Problem-Solving Curriculum for Girls which should be published by the end of 2016. Be sure to check out the Friends TALK website for book updates… and maybe even future books!

You can always reach me via email at

Happy reading!

Podcast Episode 19: tweens and the messy bedroom

Does this look familiar? Full disclaimer: this is not my tween’s bedroom, just an image from Google.


How do we get our tweens to keep their rooms up to our standards? Or is it that our standards do not match?

Listen for some tips on how to teach responsibility, realistic expectations and task oriented consequences. Spoiler alert – stop cleaning their room for them!


Podcast Episode 18: burns and roasting in middle school


This week Samantha and I tackle an issue that has come up at her middle school – burns and roasting…. is it ok? Samantha helps define these terms for us, and we have a thoughtful discussion about why these behaviors are being banned at their school.

We also talk about relational aggression and offer tips to parents for how to help your tween girl navigate friendships and pick pick friendships that allow your tween to stay true to who she is and feel good about the choice she makes.

Listen, enjoy, and most importantly….share with your friends.



Podcast Episode 14: Teaching girls how to become strong women


This week features comments submitted by our listeners. I asked parents what they are doing right now to help make sure their girls become strong women.

We also talk about the bravery deficit. Resma Saujani did a TED talk on this issue. “Most girls are taught to avoid risk and failure. Girls are taught to smile pretty, play it safe, get all A’s. Boy, on the other hand, are taught to play rough, swing high, crawl to the top of the monkey bars and jump off head first. Boys are habituated to take risks and are rewarded for it.”

I mentioned in the podcast a side by side magazine cover. One for girls and the other for boys. Check these out. We still have A LOT of work to do to create gender equality!

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So how can we change this for our girls? Listen to some ideas Samantha and I have on this topic. And, as always, SHARE with friends!


Kristan & Samantha