what to do when frustrated

This week there will be a special visitor at my Friends TALK lessons – BOB, also known as the Body Opponent Bag. His visit aligns with talking about what to do when you are frustrated. Here is BOB (I will only take his torso… the base is filled with sand). Oh, and I will need to undecorate our BOB…. Samantha has given ours flower necklaces, a fancy hat, make up, etc. I guess this gives away the fact that I have not been using him for exercise recently. I have my “nerd elbow” or lateral epicondylitis to thank for that. Note: most people call this tennis elbow, but my sweet husband coined mine nerd elbow since I have been working on writing 2 books lately. Funny guy, right?


The book reading will be Alexander and The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day. Lots of examples of problems that cause frustrations in this book. Perfect for talking about the size of our reactions to problems.

Let me back up. Problems come in many sizes. The goal when solving a problem is for our reaction (how we act when there is a problem) to match the size of the problem. Simple, right? Nope.

We often have a small problem, but have a much bigger reaction to it. Wait, this has never happened to you? Are you super human?

Screen Shot 2016-03-20 at 7.50.08 PMSo, how do you get your reaction to match the size of the problem? First, calm down. The girls already know STAR –

Stop, Take a deep breath, And Relax.

But, what next? Enter BOB. Sometimes activities like boxing can be great for stress relief. I will be teaching the girls some basic kick boxing moves using BOB. I cannot wait. What a great way to end the month before we all celebrate a week off for spring break.


Filling buckets

The lessons this week were on how to fill people’s buckets. When people say or do nice things to you, it fills your bucket. If you say or do nice things to others, it fills their bucket… and yours. Mean words or actions empties your bucket. I gave the first ever HW assignment (gasp) practice filling people’s buckets this week.


Then we headed outside for more hula hoop games!

Next week, we will have a special visitor named Bob (Body Opponent Bag) when we will learn some kick boxing moves…. woo hoo. Should be fun!


Things that are scary

The book reading this week was Things That Are Scary. To make the book reading more interactive, I had the girls drop beads into a container if they were also scared by the examples given in the book.


I had to chuckle at one of the examples. It read “when my parents scold me…. it is scary.” I asked if everyone knew what scold means. One girl’s arm  shot up in the air, and she gave a great demonstration. Haha. I said that her mom sounded good at discipline and she said, “yep, she is.”

Next up, in keeping with the scary theme, we did Alien name art. You write your name on one side of the paper, trace it to make a mirror image, then make it into an alien. This activity is always a crowd pleaser.


Finally, hula hoop games. The girls loved musical hula hoops so much that we did not get to the other hula hoop games, so they will most likely appear again next week.

Spring is here for sure, which means more outside fun for us!


Lesson on worries

Our lesson this week was on worries. We did the Worry Milk experiment.  A nice analogy to help demonstrate what worries can do.

The book reading was Wilma Jean The Worry Machine. I dressed up as Wilma Jean for the book reading and got quite a few stares and giggles. How did I do?


Wilma Jean’s teacher helped her recognize worries that she can control and worries she cannot control. For the ones you cannot control, simply put them in the worry hat so that you do not have to worry about them anymore.

We made Talking Pocket Friends as a variation of the Guatemalan Worry Doll. Telling someone about your worry is often a good strategy to keep your worry from getting bigger and bigger. And, Your Talking Pocket Friend is always with you to tell your worries to.

Then it was time to head outside for some bubble games. Amazing weather for this activity….bubbles were flying everywhere! Fun times for sure.

Worry Milk

I am doing this experiment with the girls this week. I think it is a great visual example of what worries can do.

Worry Milk.

The milk represents you. The 3 colors represent what is going on in your life. Add dish soap (AKA your worries) which represents what worries can do to you. Your worries churn up inside of you and mix everything up, which makes it harder for you to recognize what is going on in your life.