Girls in 2016

Yesterday I had my weekly check in with my book publisher. On a side note, it takes FOREVER to get a book published. I submitted the manuscript almost 6 mos ago and it is just now in the type setting phase.

Anyway, I digress. My book publisher is a phone guy, not an email guy. I think it is a generational thing. He still has a secretary who takes notes for him on one of those to/from pads with triplicate copies I bet. But when I called yesterday, he wanted to chat. I am guessing because of what is happening right now in the world of politics and the target audience of my book.

He started off by saying that he has always felt that women were equal to men and used the example of asking his wife her opinion on things. He said this was hard for her at first because in that time she was supposed to follow her husband’s lead not decide things on her own. He called this “his gift to her.”

I shared that I grew up a very conservative, Southern Baptist small town in North Carolina. My dad complained about my “liberal views” after going away to college. But you see, those views were already there. How do I know? When cleaning out my parent’s house in the late 1990s I found 2 things that cemented the fact that I did not fit into small town NC.

  1. My 4th grade formal writing letter written to Ronald Reagan.


In my best 4th grade cursive, I explained that he needed to create more jobs for people and that he was welcome to come to my house for dinner to discuss ways to make this happen. Spoiler: he did not come to dinner to hear my ideas.

2. The biography of Geraldine Ferraro.


So, sorry dad. I think my liberal views were there way before UNC Chapel Hill corrupted my brain.

My friend Rachel Ruvo posted a super cute video last night from the Democratic National Convention with this caption:

Powerful! Don’t just tell your daughters that women can grow up to be whatever they want to be, tell your sons that women can grow up to be whatever they want to be too. ‪#‎imwithher‬ ‪#‎momtofourfuturewomen‬ ‪#‎soapboxmoment‬

So true. We often focus on empowering girls, but we also need to do what my book publisher’s parents did for him. Teach our boys that girls are their equal.

Regardless of how you feel about the upcoming election, the fact that a woman could be president is pretty damn amazing. Samantha or your daughter could be next.



Podcast Episode 9: tween girls and bullying

Another super important topic this week: tween girls and bullying. Check out how Samantha stands up to bullying, as well as some good books and other resources to navigate this issue during the tween years.


One of my favorite books on this topic is Mean Jean, The Recess Queen. Check out my interpretation of Mean Jean. How did I do?


And, our new acronym to use in a bullying situation –


Stand up for yourself

Talk to an adult

Own your part

Practice what you know

We also talked about Cheryl Dellasega and some of her resources that we have used in the Friends TALK program.

The big take away message… talk about issues around bullying. If they are not talked about, they become bigger and bigger.


Stats for the first 2 months

It has been interesting to hear who listens to our podcast. Some are in our target audience, while others are not. But, hey all are welcome to listen.

I have been trying to figure out how many folks we are reaching each week, and this task has proven to be a little complicated. But, this is what I have been able to gather in terms of stats for the first 2 months of the Friends TALK podcast.

Here are our views/visitors from the blog.

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Sound Cloud.

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I have heard it takes time to build your audience, but these numbers show we are reaching people… baby steps. And, I am guessing this week’s episode will be a very popular one. Tweens, texting and social media. A hot topic for sure.

I think I need to learn how to add tags, hash tags, etc to get more traffic to us. This is all a learning process for sure…. but a fun one 😉


Podcast Episode 7: How to live like the 1980s

This week we talk more about the 1980s. But not how to have a 1980s summer day. Instead how to live more like the 1980s in general. Topics include hair, clothing style, cars, constant connection with friends, and movies. I promised listeners I would share the picture of my 1980s hair style. so here it is….complete with jazz hands.


And an old Scirocco. My car in the 1980s…. with no power steering. How was that safe to drive?

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We wrap it up with some takeaways that I think we should get back to in terms of living and parenting more like the 1980s.

What a fun stroll down memory lane this week. Listen, enjoy, and share with friends!


Podcast Episode 6: How to have a 1980s summer

This week’s episode was inspired by Samantha and a friend who were BORED with no summer camps last week. I challenged them to have a 1980s summer day. And guess what? They had a blast. This is part 1 of a 2 part series about how we should live more like we did in the 1980s.


Oh, and here is a picture of the 1980s lunch the girls enjoyed. I know parents will recognize a lot of these tasty foods.